i just wanted to give you ladies an update on what has happened since i last posted and say thank you for all your prayers and words of encouragement. I did confront her about the things she said in her journal. it was a good time to talk to her b/c it was just her and i at home without any interuptions. when we had our talk, she wasn't at all mad in fact, she said she was actually glad that i read it. i told her which i've been telling both my daughters, since before they could talk, that there was nothing she could ever do to make me stop loving her. she was crying and said "mom you don't know how hard it is to be 13, she feels pressured by her friends to write things in her journal that aren't true because the 3 girls share their journals and she wants them to think she's cool and feel accepted. she said she's never done drugs but she was with the one friend and her friend's brother when the girl did the drugs. she said she was so scared b/c she didn't know what to do and the girl's brother left her alone with the girl. she said she knows that writing the terrible language was wrong but she wanted her friends to like her. when i told her that she wouldn't be allowed to go over to that girl's house again, her response was through much sobbing and crying, "Please mommy don't ever let me go again." she appologized for writing those things and asked if we could just throw the journal away.
I know it may seem like she's pulling the wool over us but my husband and i truly are in our kid's business. I know my girl's passwords to everything from e-mail to bank accounts. we do require them to attend both worship services on Sundays and Wednesday night bible studies, b/c apart from we wanting them in church with us, we also don't want them spending too much time at home alone. I can only go on what she is telling us right now and keep trying to monitor both the girls the best we can. but i will never turn down advice or suggestions from other moms b/c i know there is lots we can learn from each other.
Your 13 yr old sounds like my 14 yr old. Just last week we had a huge argument that resulted in her running away. I looked for her for hours and finally she called apologizing. When she got home we had a long talk, and I pray double time for her now. Things have changed so much since I was a teen, not to long ago. The pressures that are out there require us to pray all day for our kids. Glad to hear that you 2 were able to talk. Remember to keep the communication lines open.
