My new DH has just been so wonderful. I have been here for a year now, and evreything would be Paradise, save one big problem....I need some real Christian advice from you...not legal advice, I've had plenty of that, but more along the lines of...what would you do if it were you?
My husband Mark is the oldest of three boys, Gary is in the middle, David is the baby. They are, 40, 38, 35. Mark's parents have both died in recent years. Mark has lived here with them for the last 20 years and put his own life on hold to stay and take care of them while they died at home. Gary, was out for the last 25 years doing liquor and drugs, and women, and DUI, and other crimes and going in and out of jail. David lived with his wife next door with thier kids. No will was left. When we got married and I moved in here with Mark, Gary threatened to kill me so I took out an order of protection and we went to court. The civil court judge said Gary MUST , along with David sign over the property to Mark, and Mark had to give him some things of thier parents'. Gary refuses to sign. We can't insure the place or even call it ours until he does. Gary is living in sin with his "common law wife" of 10 years. She broke her foot and can't work now. He wants to leave her and move in here! He says if we don't let him stay in the room where our 16 year old girl is , he will take the place into probate and have it sold. Last month he tried to force David to sell pot for him at his job. David refused, of course. None of us want Gary here for obvious reasons...him and his ilk around our girls???!!! No way!
What would you all do? Love, Lori
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I know that isn't the answer you want to hear, but you asked what I would do. Even though your husband deserves the house and everything in it. Even though he has done everything possible to make it right for his brothers. It isn't going to happen.
If it were me (and my husband) we would buy, rent, or live in a tent, in order to get our children into a safer environment. (Seriously, a person who is out of control and on drugs and alcohol as you describe is dangerous.)
Uh, I'm with Rev. Dell on this one. I'd move too, maybe even try to liquidate. At least if the house goes into probate and forced to sell, you'd recoup some funds.
