First off, sorry this post wasn't caught sooner. As for how to keep a healthy sexual relationship with your husband...whether in ministry or not keeping that relationship can be hard at times due to family pressures, children, work ect..add in ministry and its time to schedule date nights. Yes date nights. I would first say your husband must make it a priority to spend time with you without answering the phone at least one night a week. Making it clear to your staff and leadership that on date night unless it is a true life and death emergency they are not to contact you. This night is sole reserved for you and him. If you do not nurture your relationship and make it priority at least one night a week you will get very burned out in ministry. As for the sexual relationship, make it a priority as well. Yes we as wives do tend to be the shoulders that bear a lot and the shoulders our husbands depend on. It's time to remind him that you are his wife not just his dependable shoulders. That you need him, physically and emotionally without interuption. My husband made it a point to never bring church business into the bedroom. That room is our sanctuary, a place to be with each other and concentrate on loving each other. I believe it would be in your best interest to share with him how you are feeling, that you know you both are in the ministry but you need him too and make that date night.