WOW!!...how exciting is this for me to find this website! I must say that it is truly a blessing to come across this site, my Father truly hears my cry! )literally) I am new to the site, but I have been on all day reading different post and subjects that I can truly say I have and currently experiencing now. I typed in the google search engine "woman pastoring women" and multiple sites came up, there was the site the first post I read about the pwwanna bee's    when I clicked on the site, I instantly felt peace and such a connection that I knew it was God answering my prayers. I felt safe.

As Co-Pastor, my desire is to assist my husband in every aspect or endeavor as the Holy Spirit leads him. Prior to our marriage, I have been called into ministry, as a minister of the gospel through speaking, authoring books, and leading worship. God has gifted me in many areas, and I am confident who I am in Christ. However, although I am confident, I am far from dealing with anything that brings confusion. Because I'm not a very confrontational person, I always try to see things in a more positive way, even if I see things.. ( do you get that?)  . so, this is my problem, after I reading the jealous pwwannabe story, your description was exact! I mean, everything you described is this woman. From the time she came in, she wanted to be busy, busy, busy. First she went to other people in the church encouraging them to prepare for dance ministry; suggesting another woman speak to my husband and I about it so that they can get started. Then she wanted to head off the back to school give away, then she wanted to plan my husbands birthday party, then she wanted... you get the point. Now, mind you prior to all of this when they came to our church we sat down with her and husband and they explained how hurt they were from the last ministry. She said she gave them everything and in return they used and hurt her, and they pretty much shunned her, and ignored her gifts while promoting him. She made mentioned that she and the first lady did not get along. Hmm...  

This couple looks the part, and know what to do in ministry, which caused my husband and I to spend a little more time with them speaking into their life and training them for leadership. However, i've learned it is not enough to train when one is not developed. Quickly, I realized, that every motivation came from a place of wanting to be recognized and wanting to be in my shoes. To make this kinda of short, Last year they left the church, because she said that I spoke to her like she was a lttle child. I sent emails apologizing if i offended her, tried multiple times calling to discuss what I said, I had no idea what she was talking about. Her husband was fed up with her, because every ministry that they attended she could never get a long with the first lady. Fast forward, they came back and she contacted me stating she was fearful and did not want to be hurt anymore, and our conversation reminded her of her last church, and all she knew was to run, however she came back because she wants to be free, and wants to submit herself.

Here we are, she came back first, then her husband came back a month after. Collectively 2 months now. Our last conversation I explained to her that moving foward we have to spend time together, praying and talking there will be times when I will speak what the Lord says concerning her, and I also shared with her other things like how we do things in the house-in order, and If she had an idea be sure to propose to the Sr Pastors before planning anything with others. I told her at this point her only focus should be is daily seeking God for healing and deliverance, committing herself to her family, and to work in the capacity assigned to her right now in the ministry. After all she just came back. She agreed and all was well for about 3 weeks. 

Last Saturday, one of the women came to me and said, Pastor "this sister" wants me to get with you to find out the dates for Pastors anniversary, she is planning something for him, then she proceeded to tell me, that she wanted to see if it would be okay to plan a luncheon for mothers day weekend.  I spoke with "this sister" explained to her that Pastor already has plans for Mothers Day do not worry about planning anything. I also mentioned the church anniversary that WE and other staff are planning the church anniversary.  Her husband, asked to meet with us on this same Saturday.  The four of us sat down and they presented a whole proposal to us which covered outreach, youth ministry, teaching etc..  I was floored, like really?? lol wow, so a church within a church.

We are scheduled to meet with them again to get clarity on their proposal. Since our last conversation about the anniversary/mothers day she stopped texting me and strictly text my husband. She missed Bible Study 2 weeks in a row, normally will correspond with me, but text him and told him she would not be there.

I understand God is growing me up in this area, as a matter of fact in prayer this morning I prayed for patience, wisdom and most of discernment to identify what spirit works within and how to deal. One of the key things I read when reading your post was something like, covering in love was not enough, but prayer and fasting for deliverance.

Now I have many questions to ask concerning how to deal with, and how to approach again? I feel disrespected and angry, but I been praying for my emotions   don't want to react from that place. But whatever feed back you can give please share more of your wisdom!!  

Thanks much!