My new job as a nurse at a local home is going well, although I find the 12-14 hour shifts very rough at 40!
Donna Joy loves school and is getting good marks already. The other girls are still with him, and this makes me sad, I miss them, I really can't say much about them on this site, but i will be getting to see them soon.
Junior(Mark) has asked me to marry him! We have counseled with our pastor, we were baptized together last Sunday. we get married on Dec. 31st. We are both very happy.
My ex-husband still maintains that even though he was abusive, I have no right to re-marry. I need some Biblical input here please. My new Pastor said that it's simple because he is supposed to love my as Christ loved the church. Please talk to me ladies! Love, LW
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Good to hear from you. Well, I have known you for a long time...and I know much of your situation -- however -- I do not know all of it, nor to the extent that I could make a judgment on that.
I believe in many cases only the marriage partners involved truly KNOW what went on in the marriage. I do not believe God wants you to stay in abuse, that's for sure.
As for divorce and remarriage - in your situation, (living in an abusive marriage), it is difficult to determine the mind of God on this. I do not pass judgment on those who make these decisions...I believe you need to hear God for yourself. I do not believe even your pastor can tell you God's will in this matter. Have you fasted and prayed about it? It doesn't matter your husband's "opinion" on the matter, it's God's Word and His will that matter.
Your husband admitted the abuse. Was he willing to go to Christian counseling - I do not mean just to a pastor - but was he willing to go through serious treatment to overcome his abuse? If not, you would not be able to go back to him. Until he was delivered from this behavior for good, you could not subject yourself to that abuse.
My concern would be - how much time did you give this? Do not hastily move into another marriage, and keep an open heart to what God wants. In other words, don't resolutely move toward the Dec. 31st marriage with the attitude, "we're getting married no matter what!" Go to pre-marital counseling with an open mind, and open heart, and seek the Lord. If the Lord gives you a check about it - be completely willing to surrender it. Only when you know you are in God's will, will you be truly happy.
If Mark is God's will for you - nothing needs to be rushed, and he will wait for you.
My advice to you would be - don't do your will and then ask God to bless it. Tell God you desire to do whatever His will is, in order to live in His blessing. Make sense?
