My name is Carol.  I am a pastor's wife.  I have a daughter 29 years who is married for two years to a youth pastor.  They are serving at a church in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, but are originally from the Caribbean.  They are having some problems adjusting.  My daughter is feeling that he is giving too much time to the church and to one young lady in particular.  She is involved with him in the ministry, but is finding it overwhelming at times.  She has been very verbal and outspoken about the situation.  She has spoken to me about the problems, but he has not.  There seems to be a lack of trust in the relationship for what he has said to my husband.  How can I help without appearing to be intruding too much or getting too involved in the relationship?