Does it amaze any of you like it does me when people want to talk about how to pastor a church when they have never done it? Or when people want to say, "the way church should be" and they've never been responsible to run one?
I am just UH-mayzed at the amount of "arm chair psychologists" we have in the church today.
Everytime I hear somebody say something that starts with...
"The problem with churches today..." or
"The problem with pastors today..." or
"If church would just do this..."
I just want to say, "um, and how many years have you been pastoring a church now?"
Sometimes I just get sick of it. Thanks for listening. I feel better right now just having said that.
You posted this three days ago..... I blogged three days ago about one of my opinions of "what the church should do".... I must have HORRIFIC timing huh? :/
It's the same as ones who never had kids but give all kinds of judgements and tips on raising them! Don't get me wrong, God can use anyone. I mean look at Paul who was not married and his advice to couples or views on women....God can be in it . But I think that is more the exception than the rule; what's more offensive is the spirit in which something is delivered or spoken! Is there haughtiness? mocking? Wisdom? Is it all just their opinion that they are trying to make a universal truth? Like all things, I try to eat the grape and spit out the seeds! I am a very teachable person but if I feel bulldozed or someone is too pushy, I find it hard to receive from them even if there is some wisdom in it.
For example, recently a friend wanted to surprise me with a spa treatment. Well, at age 35 my health changed and I experienced considerable hair loss. I have resorted to hair pieces or wigs and had not told this friend yet. The spa lady was to give me a facial so I asked for a cap. She was so offensive as she began to "lecture" me against wearing wigs. She went on and on....not letting me get word in. I felt so embarrassed and bad but I didn't want to let my friend know how awful I felt since it was her thoughtful gift to me. The spa lady was so insensitive to me and really overbearing. I was shocked. Honest ladies, when things are presented to me in that manner - I tune you out! Even if that lady had great insights, it was just a clanging cymbal to me .....without love!
It makes me sad to read that you were done that way. ((((hugs))))) :p to that lady. lol I agree with you. What is the old saying, "a little bit of sugar makes the medicine go down." ???
Thanks Cassandra. She was about 3 years too LATE to speak into my life on this topic....I had already considered everything she had shared back when I made the difficult decision. It's really a personal matter in which she had no business lecturing me on...I was there for a massage/facial. Plus, my dh is very clear what he wouldn't be attracted too! He doesn't prefer short hair on women (not because of any scriptures just his taste), there's a certain color I know he loathes, and really he doesn't care for straight hair either. When I shared that dh like longer hair, she said "Oh! Some men just have to feel like they have a trophy on their arm!" She was just one of those just TOO OPINIONATED!
