So, my husband and I have been friends with a couple we have mentored the last 3 years. He has an on and off drug problem with crack, and she has endured and stayed, and believed for restoration in their marriage for the last 5 years. Well, after another 4 months of being clean, he screwed up and got high again, trading some of his personal items for some lines of rock. Now, she e-mailed me saying she wants out, has had a plan for over a year, and had hoped not to use it. We have been down this path too many times before with them. He is prideful, worried about what others think about him and his issue. She is tired of playing super-wife and hates the fact she has to baby-sit him all the time. Their communicaiton is warped and so is their marriage. My hubby and I spoke to each of them seperately. We also gave him the scripture from Hebrews 6: 1-12. There is only so much we can do, he has to make the final choice as to if he cares more about his crack and pride, or his wife and family. What do think?
Beloved - Unfortunately addictions have a devastating effect on relationships. Submission to addiction is as deadly to a marriage as adultery, perhaps even more so. I think that we can handle a relationship with a person better than a choice to self-destruct.
Be the spiritual covering that they will need you to be for them.
Thanks so much for your encouragement! It has been really hard trying to talk to them about these issues. They want to conintue as if everything is okay and it is not.
