My DH dresses very imodestly nearly all the time. This has always been a problem, but in the last 2 years, he has lost more than 100 pounds and he has started working out. He likes the attention he is now getting. So it has gotten worse. He always dresses modestly for church, except his shirt is open from the upper middle and up. I have expressed my feelings about this, and so have our very modesty conscious daughters. But he will not repent. I have to admit, I like to see him in his little silky shorts around the house, but I don't like him going out in public this way. Our lady friends, and sisters in Christ, have also expressed thier feelings to me about the way he dresses when he comes over to help them with something. We can't seem to find common ground. He also has said that he would like me to accentuate my "assets" more. I am easily recognized, and am often stopped when I am out and about. I can't and won't go around looking like a harlet. This is causing problems in our marraige. He has accused me of being frigid and prudish. I have quoted scripture, "... modesty and sobriety, without braided hair or costly array"... but this has done no good. I am very worried about our witness to others. Causing another to stumble and all that. HELP! lw ( He is not a Pastor, he is an officer at a local jail. He does come with me to many US Senate functions, TV and Radio spots, and speaking engagements)
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Oh how I wish there was an easy answer for this... I have found that many people who have problems with self-esteem and self-image often over compensate by being showy... This is true of both men and women. Perhaps your husband's concern is that he is still feeling the extra pounds that he has shed physically... My suggestion to you is that you continue in constant prayer... Say less, pray more!
Also since he has obviously has made changes in his physical appearance and likes people to see it, then perhaps you may want to go shopping with him and pick out somethings that still show his physique while showing less skin... (Kind of like Bishop Eddie Long wears...) There is always more than one way to accentuate the positive...
