I adore my DH. From my posts, I guess you know it. I love how seriously he takes his responsibility as spiritual leader in the home. He gathers everyone for devotions every night, does a couples devotion with me, gets everyone up and going in the morning for church.
His problem is, when he prays, he uses the same prayers over and over like a ritual. At the table and devotional times. I have asked him and he says he feels really inadequate to just talk to such a holy God who would take the time to create little old him. Not verbatum, but you get the idea. Deanna, could you maybe ask Larry? He just feels so small and underqualified.
When it comes time to pray for a specific situation, he has me do it. I know ladies that that is ok to do, but in my heart, I need him to do this. He says he feels like Moses... What should I do? Love, Lori
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Well, don't discourage him in any way because at least he's praying and many men don't do THAT much! He's a beginning pray-er but at least he is a praying man. I would get him the book, "The power of a praying husband."
He loves to read and I love how excited he seems to be about learning his new role threw the word of God. I have not discouraged him, and I continue to uplift and edify him as the leader in our home. The girls do as well, as it is something they have always wanted. I will get that book. I wonder if Focus on The Family carries it. No matter, we have some very fine book stores not too far away. God Bless! Lori
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Deanna, Ladies, do you really know Christian homes where the man doesn't pray at all? Lori
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Oh my, ABSOLUTELY. I know so many men throughout our 20 years of pastoring who ask their wives to do it every time. Many say they are "nervous" to pray out loud...uncomfortable, etc. We have had men over the years who would not agree to usher in the service if they thought they would be asked to pray. We don't do that anymore anyway, one of our staff always prays for the offering. But in previous churches, they had a custom where an usher would pray and many men wouldn't agree to usher because of it. Some men have even said to my husband (about a men's ministry activity) 'please just don't ever ask me to pray out loud.'
Unfortunely, yes! I know of homes where the man has the wife lead them in prayer. I have also seen homes where the children are the ones blessing the meals and that is the only apparent family prayer time. I agree with Deanna, be sure not to discourage him as he gets more comfortable then he will mostly like change the words, but as long as he is trying, smile and praise the Lord your dh has taken on his role as spiritual leader.
One more thing I have seen men make a trip to the restroom when it gets close to offering or closing prayer. Or they lower their heads to appear like they are already in prayer to avoid I contact with my dh.
Wow! that really both floors me and makes me feel a bit better in a way. Lori
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...... Then they came for the Catholics, and I was a Protestant, so I never said anything. And then, they came for ME, and there was no one left to speak up. Martin Neimoller, German Pastor, WW2
Not verbatum, but you get the idea. Deanna, could you maybe ask Larry? He just feels so small and underqualified.
Love, Lori
