I was out of town for Christmas; just now read this. That was  a good point. As a co-pastor raising three kids, I "evolved" in a church not used to the concept of co-pastoring. Thus, they had this prescribed role for me (unspoken) and I didn't quite fit their ideal! SP's sometimes inherit a staff and one particular person we inherited seemed disrespectful and even resistant to me.
During a service, the Holy Spirit directed me to ask her if I had done anything to hurt or offend her?  I said, "Lord you want ME to ask HER?!  She should be asking me."  I was being stubborn with the Lord when a tongues/interpretation came forth emphasizing humility...HUMBLE YOURSELF!  So I did....

This individual said "NO".  I said to the Lord: "SEE!  I told you I didn't do anything to her".  Moments later, she leaned over to me and asked for forgiveness for her direspect Blah Blah Blah.  Now what if I had been too stubborn?  I would have missed this genuine repentance and miracle for my situatiopn!  From that day, this inherited staff has been respectful and even calls me pastor too!  

Now I'm not normally stubborn!  I had just been so hurt by this person and her associates that I couldn't imagine why God would tell me to lean over to her but I had to obey...setting my pride aside.   No time for stubborness when God is on the scene.  It only hurts ourselves.  But there's a good stubborness and it is called tenacity!  We needs lots of that in the ministry!  Amen.