So funny you bring this up! I started to say something about it and thought I was getting long winded enough. lol I have been doing that same thing. I almost get to the point of tears. I mean I think littl eladies in Mexico would love to have this big stack of laundry to iron. They would love to have carpet to vacuum. And when I start complaining and feeling sorry for myself needing to lose some weight, I realize, even again this morning, that it is because I am so blessed I have this problem. It is kind of like a double negative. Let me explain. I will feel like we need a bigger grocery budget; that I want to put together better meals (which I do need to rely less on returaunts and takeout) but all the while my scale has been climbing. Then I realize that I have been eating so much that Iif I woul dcut back that food would last longer and we wouldn't run out of food nearly as early. Sounds simple yet it hit me so hard. It is MY response -- ability to CHOSE the right attitude with what I am doing. If I need to clean house...thank God I have a NEED to clean a house...I could be without a house. If I need to lose a few pounds..thank God I have so much food that I CAN eat too much. I could be starving somewhere wondering how I can feed my kids? WE are the ones who decide if something is going to be a burden or a joy. Atleast a pleasantry you know. Like with your company. Some could look at the work that creates and just say aw forget it. But the blessing of their stay is worth that work to you so you are finding joy in the labor. When I am doing house work with a good attitude I also fidnd , even though I don't ask him to, my dh will feel for me and be a lot mor elike ly to jump in there and help me. But you let me mumble, complain, slam doors and sigh under my breath. He will either leave (he's done it!) or sit on that couch, watch tv and ignore me. Women complain of how much their husband stays gone and doesn't want to be around them yet when he's around they are taking his head off and manipulating him and nagging. I know. I used to do it. But when I CHOSE to be happier he finds me much more attractive. And he is so in love with me know it is hilarious. And all I did was start caring for my duties and try to be sweeter about it. He loves to have me around his minister friends . He takes pride in MY knowledge of scripture (That was not meant for the intent of boasting. I mean it in refrence to so many minister husbands who do not acknowledge that their wife even owns a Bible...but that's another thread too )

SO I totally agree with you. ANd yes I will preach on it one day. You just wait. But I love living in America. I thank God for hot water to bath in. It is wonderful to be able to get burned out on food becasue there is too much of it. I am glad I have too many clothes. And a car to clean out. I said this to dh the other day and he laughed. I was cleaning out my new(er) van the other day (it is a payment free blessing from GOd) and feeling kind of yaya because I had so much to do. And I thought. I wonder if Sarah ever complained becuase she had to clean out her camel. I mean every time she had to stop and feed her camel, water her camel it is like us fueling up (alot longer of a process for her) We complain about not having servant girls like PROV31 chic. We do. It's Ms. Dishwasher, Ms. Washing machine, Ms.Dryer and Ms. Refrigerator. We have nothing to complain about in this country. If you own 1 tv you are among the top 10% of the world wealthiest population. It's true. What is the old saying...I complained because I had no shoes unitl I met a man who had no feet. Sometimes if I get to feeling a little miffed at dh (usually because I  look at his faults instead of all of his good) I will stop and be thankful that atleast I have a husband. And he loves GOd and is terribly in love with me. Does anyhting I ask him to if he can. Atleast I am not a widow or single mom. So many would trade with me in a moment. We should look at our live through someone else's eyes sometimes and that might stop our whining. I know I get preachy. I feel so much passion about stuff like this. Sermons about supernatural stuff is great. I like endtimes, I like faith, I like deep things of the Word. My husband gets tickled at me. But I LOVE controversial theology. But most of our lives are spent doing the everyday things. We must learn to do the everyday things victoriously and witht hte right attitude before we can raise the dead and stuff. This generationwould probably be like those that when they saw Jesus raise LAzarus started complaining cause he "be all stanky!"  They just saw a miracle and were finding something to complain about. I ask a brother form Chile , a missionary, what made America hard on his chrisitanity. He said it is becasue Americans (he's one too ) have so many conveniences and think the gospel is about their comfort. He said having paved roads in the county areas (here) were better than some of the roads he'd seen (in CHile and abroad) that were busy like our interstates! Can you imagine dirt interstates. Just think about that next time you have to wash highway sludge off your minivan lol It could be worse. You could having to stop and wash a donkey! lol I'm cracking me up Sorry. I am getting a kick out of that mental picture. We are radically blessed and we should be radically thankful. Then we would need radically less. I have quit using the word need. I say now I "want" not "need" If I have my health and my dear ones, I have all I NEED. What I NEED to is to be glad for it. ANd take care with joy of all the extras I have. Like soap scum. You never thought soap scum could be so beautiful.

I'll end with this. One time I heard this minister who went to Africa. It was a very poor area he was ministering to. They were converts already so he was going to help build a Bible college there. They knew he was leaving all the comforts of home to be with them so they went and out of what little they had bought cement and built him a bath tub cause they knew that was what he was used to. He said that was the roughest thing he'd ever set his bottom on. But he was touched and thankful for people. And realized how spoiled he'd truly became. That is powerful. That minister is a famous one you'd know.

Well I am done. I have I house work I get to do today too. House blessing af Flylady would say. But first a special k breakfast. Love ya'll

Cassandra

WOW! The last posts on these threads are incredible!

yes...I too am blessed and am learning more and more to be thankful and GRATEFUL instead of complaining. For the most part I am a SAHM & am also very involved in leading with my husband. I can completely relate to the stories of those SAHMs who just whine about how their dh don't help out....praise the lord you even have a dh ya know??? it's an epidemic in a small group of ladies in our congregation...whine, whine, whine...that seems to be their only language. I believe I will take Deanna's advice & do a teaching. I've been wondering what to do anyway or how to approach it since it's been affecting others.

Well, back to being grateful....yes, I am thankful for a beautiful family, a great dh and 3 wonderful girls. I do see it as my job to manage the home and I want to find JOY in serving my husband and children...it is my duty & i'm honored to do it. yes, it is tiring at times, but I know my husband's job is tiring too, we both work hard.

i forgot who said it, but YES...we must be different as Christian wives and mothers or what attraction do we have for others??? Our attitudes must like that of Christ...He POURED out Himself and served!!

Okay, goodnight ladies! glad to be back on the board,
leadinglady